Hey Luvz! Lets sit back in our corner cut an sip tea while we chat…
So were talking about heart breaks and pick me ups because it’s that season again. When we get our heart broken there ends up being a chemical imbalance that takes place in our bodies for a second. There is also a shift in our minds that can either lean closer to our darkness, or spark a light inside of us. Love alters us more than we actually know and it’s beneficial to our hearts to understand this. High levels of dopamine and a related hormone, norepinephrine, are released during attraction. These chemicals make us giddy, energetic, and euphoric, even leading to decreased appetite and insomnia – which means you actually can be so “in love” that you can’t eat or can’t sleep.
Now when it comes to breakups the exact same thing happens but it affects us negatively. When we break up, our brains lose their regular supply of these neurotransmitters, and we go into neurological withdrawal. This is how broken hearts break brains. Subjectively, the deficit in these chemicals can make us feel anxious, depressed, and isolated. Its not made up when you have your heart broken and you feel defeated or physically sick. You are actually having a withdraw from chemicals that your brain needs.
After being on such a high and then being snapped into such a low, it can be hard to pick yourself back up and put your life back together without feeling like there’s a missing link. But it’s definitely not impossible because we as humans our built to fight… To overcome. First you have to find a way to pick yourself up out of the darkness which is harder than we let on. This requires letting go! Letting go of the anger, the self doubt, letting go of what could have been an focus on what’s laid out before you.
Start by remembering everyday that there are things in life that we can not change. But also be willing to change the things that you can for a different outcome next time around. Focus on catering to you, loving you, forgiving yourself, and most of all – changing your routine in a way that you receive more positivity. Stay busy but don’t forget that it’s okay to hurt because pain equals growth in my book. Take your time to learn yourself again, to learn what you need and think about what you have to offer someone when it comes to the art of love.
It won’t be easy to do any of these things, but it is possible. Its possible to love again, its possible to heal and to become happy about having to start over. Not all restarts are a bad thing, some are actually necessary. Its necessary for us to begin again because we charge all the time. Even when you are with someone for years, the two of you change all the time hence – you begin again just as ac team. The ups can come with downs, but with every down there noting but up. Remember Luvz to Focus on forgiveness and take your time, there’s no rush!